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Bridal Shower Attended and OH MY GOD!!!

May 30th, 2007 at 04:28 am

I attended a Bridal Shower this evening. I do not know the bride or the groom. I do slightly know the mother of the groom. Apparently, both the bride and groom are young and expecting.

I have attended many Bridal Showers over the years. Some large, some small, some lavish, some thrown together. This was one for the books. OH MY GOD!! The mother of the bride, grandma, and aunt went in together to give a gift of 12 miss matched dish towels to the bride. Yes, all three on the "gift". No they were not heirloom they were new.$ 3.99 at Wal-Mart maybe.

I realize that not everyone has tons of cash, but please!!! Some thought could have gone into the gift. And, no they are not paying for the wedding. The brides family has spent exactly zero on the event.

I might also add that the oldest car in the parking lot was probably a 2004. The clothes they wore were current. They all three had enough money to have their nails and hair done, so.........I am just floored by the lack of class and creative energy.

Now, I am probably just a little more upset than I normally would be, because my gift was recycled and I had prior guilt before arriving to the Bridal Shower. Since I didn't know the couple and I don't have tons of cash, I regifted kinda.

I took one of the four picnic baskets we have and filled it with a bottle of sparkling grape juice (their under age), nine different cheese samples I had, a box of deli crackers, and a cleaned and presses tablecloth and matching napkins. The basket already had service for two in it including plates, silverware, cups, and wine glasses. Yes, the basket was new, it still had the tags on it.

I felt bad because I probably spent more in wrapping, tape, and giantic bow than I did on the gift. Needless to say, my gift was the nicest one there.

Please don't get me wrong, you don't have to spend money on a gift to make it great. Coupons made on the computer for free babysitting, cleaning their new home, etc would have been nice. A new laundry basket filled with household items for their new home bought with coupons would have been nice. A family recipe book or better yet family recipe cards in a box would have been nice.

Anyway.....that was my evening!!

10 Responses to “Bridal Shower Attended and OH MY GOD!!!”

  1. boomeyers Says:

    Well, it is nice of you to feel for the young couple. Looks like they are trying to do the right thing and will have a rought road ahead!

  2. barbara L Says:

    I'm wondering who gave the shower? My sister just had a baby shower for her daughter in law and spent $400. She also gave her a check for $50.00. Showers can be pretty expensive. One person asked her what she got for the mom and babies. My sister said "I gave the shower" and didn't elaborate. There are two sides to every story and you never know what was given out in private to the couple.

  3. disneysteve Says:

    You know, it could well be that the family isn't too thrilled that this underage child is pregnant and getting married. It doesn't really sound like something that should be celebrated.

  4. monkeymama Says:

    True, but then why bother? I Certainly didn't have a bridal shower - just thought it was a racket.

    & then why invite strangers?

    The whole thing is just odd all around.

    All I could think is if they spent so much money on all that other stuff maybe they don't have much left over. Wink

  5. Fern Says:

    Maybe you don't know all the facts. Maybe the mother and others already gave a large gift in the form of money, and the dish towels was just something to be able to give at the event itself.

    You may not be in the position to know all the facts.

  6. creditcardfree Says:

    Regardless of the other gifts...yours sounded very nice and thoughtful. All babies and marriages are to be celebrated! Some just show it differently then others.

  7. mom-from-missouri Says:

    If they are underage and expecting, could be the relatives are picking up the medical bills for the babies delivery or paying for their housing...

    The way I was raised, we didn't celebrate situations like this. But, if the mother kept the baby we would give something that was needed for the baby--a cousin of mine got preg. in college, and I remember my parents bought her a case of the formula she was using.

    Also, could be this may not be the first time this has happened to this girl, or her family and maybe they want to discourage it, and not have lavish parties.

  8. Amber Says:

    Well it was nice of you to provide a gift to some one you don't know and remeber sometimes just because we drive a mercedes we may have volks wagon pockets. Who knows they (family members) may go over board for a wedding gift

  9. Patrick Says:

    In response to a troll on your "top 10" list, you stated that you "have over 2 million to show for my efforts."

    In the above digression you state: "I don't have tons of cash."

    Just wondering...

  10. momandmurray Says:

    Patrick, I addressed your question in the top ten list!

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