I attended a Bridal Shower this evening. I do not know the bride or the groom. I do slightly know the mother of the groom. Apparently, both the bride and groom are young and expecting.
I have attended many Bridal Showers over the years. Some large, some small, some lavish, some thrown together. This was one for the books. OH MY GOD!! The mother of the bride, grandma, and aunt went in together to give a gift of 12 miss matched dish towels to the bride. Yes, all three on the "gift". No they were not heirloom they were new.$ 3.99 at Wal-Mart maybe.
I realize that not everyone has tons of cash, but please!!! Some thought could have gone into the gift. And, no they are not paying for the wedding. The brides family has spent exactly zero on the event.
I might also add that the oldest car in the parking lot was probably a 2004. The clothes they wore were current. They all three had enough money to have their nails and hair done, so.........I am just floored by the lack of class and creative energy.
Now, I am probably just a little more upset than I normally would be, because my gift was recycled and I had prior guilt before arriving to the Bridal Shower. Since I didn't know the couple and I don't have tons of cash, I regifted kinda.
I took one of the four picnic baskets we have and filled it with a bottle of sparkling grape juice (their under age), nine different cheese samples I had, a box of deli crackers, and a cleaned and presses tablecloth and matching napkins. The basket already had service for two in it including plates, silverware, cups, and wine glasses. Yes, the basket was new, it still had the tags on it.
I felt bad because I probably spent more in wrapping, tape, and giantic bow than I did on the gift. Needless to say, my gift was the nicest one there.
Please don't get me wrong, you don't have to spend money on a gift to make it great. Coupons made on the computer for free babysitting, cleaning their new home, etc would have been nice. A new laundry basket filled with household items for their new home bought with coupons would have been nice. A family recipe book or better yet family recipe cards in a box would have been nice.
Anyway.....that was my evening!!
Bridal Shower Attended and OH MY GOD!!!
May 30th, 2007 at 05:28 am
May 30th, 2007 at 05:32 am 1180499549
May 30th, 2007 at 06:00 am 1180501245
May 30th, 2007 at 01:44 pm 1180529049
May 30th, 2007 at 02:58 pm 1180533516
& then why invite strangers?
The whole thing is just odd all around.
All I could think is if they spent so much money on all that other stuff maybe they don't have much left over.
May 30th, 2007 at 03:39 pm 1180535997
You may not be in the position to know all the facts.
May 30th, 2007 at 05:01 pm 1180540895
May 30th, 2007 at 05:42 pm 1180543324
The way I was raised, we didn't celebrate situations like this. But, if the mother kept the baby we would give something that was needed for the baby--a cousin of mine got preg. in college, and I remember my parents bought her a case of the formula she was using.
Also, could be this may not be the first time this has happened to this girl, or her family and maybe they want to discourage it, and not have lavish parties.
May 31st, 2007 at 04:08 am 1180580931
May 31st, 2007 at 05:52 pm 1180630339
In the above digression you state: "I don't have tons of cash."
Just wondering...
June 2nd, 2007 at 06:59 pm 1180807182